Amber Warning - Now I understand the bullies

Columnists from the Lynn News,, @lynnnewscitizen on Twitter
Columnists from the Lynn News,, @lynnnewscitizen on Twitter

Bullying is something most people have to deal with, whether they’re the victim or the bully; an adult or a child; at work, at school or home.

It affects us all in many different ways, and some of us will be able to cope with it, while others won’t.

I’ve been bullied lots of different times for lots of different reasons, and so have the majority of my friends.

It’s a horrible thing to witness or to even be a part of, and I was inspired to write this week’s column after one of my friends told me what she has been going through at school recently.

In my younger years of secondary school people chose to call me any horrible name they could think of and occasionally it would be physical.

They would make comments on the way I look and they would ruin my things. They didn’t think there was anything wrong with hitting someone round the head for no reason, and it even progressed to cyber-bullying.

Luckily, I stopped caring what anyone else thought of me and I became comfortable in my own skin. The bullies got bored, and eventually I started to feel ‘accepted’.

Having overcome being bullied, I now feel like I understand why bullies do what they do. They might be having problems at home, they might have serious insecurities, or perhaps they’re just deeply unhappy with themselves. Whatever the reason may be, it’s no excuse for what they’re doing, but it helps to understand the thoughts behind their actions.

A lot of the time people are nasty because the other person has something they don’t. It might be your amazing sense of humour, your intelligence, your looks, or maybe you have that ‘star quality’ they feel they lack.

I think bullying needs to stop, of course – everyone feels that way.

All around the world, schools are trying to stamp out bullying, but I’m not sure if this ‘pastime’ will ever die out. And that is where random acts of kindness come in. Next time you’re in school and you see someone sat by themselves, why don’t you go and sit with them?

Who knows, the person could be your future best friend. Next time you’re at work, tell one of your colleagues they look nice. It’s the little things that matter, and it’s a great feeling knowing that you have made someone’s day brighter.

I would like to point out an anti-bullying campaign that my friend Sophie started. You can find it on her blog: If someone is bullying you, please know there are always people that can help.