More than half of dads in Lynn pretend to be asleep to avoid getting up in the night with their kids, a survey has found.
In the study, dads admit to lying still and keeping their eyes closed when their child calls out in the night, so that their other half gets up instead.
It also emerged that dads are most likely to fake sleep when it comes to night feeds, a child having a nightmare, teething problems, a lost dummy or because they’ve wet the bed.
Emma Kenny, child psychologist and spokeswoman for nappy product DryNites who commissioned the research, said: “Deciding who gets up in the night can often be the cause of arguments between parents from the moment their baby is born, right through to pre-school age when they are dealing with nightmares and wet beds.
“It’s important that both mums and dads share the responsibility if their child wakes up in the middle of the night.
“The good news is that parents can often manage the causes of sleepless nights by being aware of the support and products available to ensure their kids sleep through.”
The study of 2,000 parents in West Norfolk and across the country, found 35 per cent of dads own up to faking sleep to avoid having to get up with a child, with 75 per cent of those saying they knew this would mean their partner would go instead.
Thirty-one per cent say they pretend to be asleep because they can’t be bothered to get up, while 26 per cent are just too tired.
But more than one in five admitted they simply don’t want to have to deal with a particular complaint their child might have.
Four in 10 use the excuse of having work the next day to avoid having to get up while another 24 per cent claim it’s not their turn.
One in five say the children call for mum, not dad, with one in ten saying their other half is better at dealing with their kids in the middle of the night.
Forty-six per cent of dads also admitting they are more likely to pretend to be asleep with some reasons than others.
The study found that while 31 per cent of parents say dealing with the middle of the night wake-up calls is generally shared between them, 47 per cent say it’s usually mum who gets up.
Just 14 per cent say it is a job normally left for dad to take care of.
But 43 per cent of parents say deciding who should be the one to get up has caused rows between them and their partner.
And almost half have woken up their sleeping other half because it was their turn to deal with their child, even though they were already awake themselves.
Top five reasons men pretend to be asleep:
1 “She’ll do it
2 “Can’t be bothered”
3 “I was too tired”
4 “At this time of night ... do I really want to be sorting baby’s latest gripe out!”
5 “It was her turn”
Top five excuses men give to get their partner to get up instead
1 I’ve got work tomorrow 2 I did it last time 3They are calling for you, not me 4 I just pretend to be asleep 5 You’re better at dealing with it than I am
Top ten reasons for a child waking dads are most likely to pretend to sleep for: 1 Night feeds 2 Nightmares 3 Teething 4 Lost dummy 5 Wetting the bed 6 Just because they can’t sleep 7 Kicking their quilt off 8 Falling out of bed 9 Needing the toilet 10 Being too hot/cold