A mother who wanted to make the grave of her baby son look nice is upset after being told to remove kerbstones.
Sheena Flanagan is coming to terms with the loss of her son Tagan, who was delivered stillborn in Lynn’s Queen Elizabeth Hospital last November.
But Miss Flanagan is upset after West Norfolk Council has asked her to remove the stones she and partner Steven Lee placed around the edge of the baby’s grave in the Gayton Road cemetery.
Miss Flanagan, 23, of Bishop’s Road, Gaywood, has until August 30 to remove the stones. She said: “It’s really upset me. I can’t see the harm in Tagan have a pretty grave.
“It is important to me to make the grave look nice. It makes me feel better if it looks nice and tidy. I feel the rules are bit hard.”
Miss Flanagan had gone to hospital believing she was going to give birth. But Tagan had died earlier after a complication with the cord. He was delivered on November 13.
Miss Flanagan, who also has one-year-old son Steven, had initially put a small trellis fence to mark the grave about five weeks ago.
But this was removed by the family after realising they had extended Tagan’s plot.
They then replaced the fence with the kerbing stones before receiving another letter from the council.
Miss Flanagan said: “I really can’t understand why he is not allowed these on his grave.”
A spokesman for the council says it would be happy to discuss the memorial with the family.
She said: “Memorials on children’s and babies’ graves are, by their nature, a very sensitive subject.
“We are aware of the need to be sympathetic and try to be as flexible as possible whilst still ensuring that the area is kept in a manner that enables other graves to be accessed and maintenance and grass cutting to be carried out.
“We provide advice on what is allowed on graves and are happy to help if people are unsure as to what is permitted.”
The council said that staff had moved the trellis fence as it hampered access to another grave and no further action was taken.
The spokeswoman said: “Since then the fence has been replaced with kerb stones, within which other memorials and teddies have been placed.
“We try to work with families to ensure that their requirements can be met, whilst keeping within our guidelines. This ensures that other people’s needs and feelings are also considered, and that the area can be properly maintained.
“We understand the distress that the family are under and have taken every care to be sympathetic at all times. We are not asking for the other teddies and memorials to be removed and if the family wish to arrange for an approved kerb set to be put in place, we are happy to discuss this further with them.”