Bereavement garden to be created in West Norfolk village as ‘oasis’ for grieving residents
A bereavement garden is to be created in a West Norfolk village as a quiet place for residents to remember those dear to them.
The project in Nordelph is a joint effort between charity CALM (Coping and Living with Miscarriage), garden designer Mark Smith, local firm CGM and a group of volunteers.
And tomorrow, they will be clearing rubble and weed off the site, at the back of the village hall, and are appealing for more help with monetary donations, as well as donations of garden plants and furniture.
Cate Waters, of CALM, said: “With miscarriage, many homes and dreams are shattered, and often there is nowhere the parent can go to remember their child.
“The Nordelph Bereavement Garden will offer that oasis – a little sanctuary, in a beautiful setting, with a chance to look at their memorial in the Book of Remembrance, to lay a named stone down and spend some time with their memories and hopes.”
CALM is a small charity which aims to help families to come to terms with their grief.
Cate said the coronavirus pandemic disrupted their schedule, as they ordinarily offer a monthly remembrance service held at the village hall as part of the Congregational Church of Nordelph. There is also a monthly meeting for the parents affected.
Meanwhile, a Book of Remembrance is also provided – anyone who has lost a baby who is interested can email Cate, or write to her on the CALM Facebook page.
It is a free service and the original is sent to the parent or adult who has requested the memorial – a copy goes into the CALM Remembrance Book at Lynn’s Queen Elizabeth Hospital, and another goes into the Congregational Church Book of Remembrance at Nordelph.
Cate said the same service – of a dedication in a Book of Remembrance – is offered to those who lost their lives in war, for older people and for people’s pets.
The plans for the bereavement garden have been devised by Mark Smith, a garden designer, and gardening firm CGM, who have offered to strim the are for free tomorrow morning.
Cate said a plant sale which has held recently raised £200 for the garden.
“The aim is to achieve a garden where people can sit quietly, where there will be a rockery, water feature, and plants to encourage birds, butterflies and bees,” she added.
If anyone would like to join the Nordelph gardeners, they will be working at the site – while social-distancing – at 10am tomorrow. People will need to bring their own gardening equipment and refreshments.
To donate to the appeal, or if you have any items to donate, contact Cate via the CALM Facebook page or email email@example.com.