Baby joy for West Norfolk couple who had to postpone marriage twice
A couple who thought they were unable to conceive found out they were nine weeks away from having a baby.
And in an extraordinary five months for Robert Pearson and Sarah-Jane Buttriss, they also had to twice postpone their wedding due to the Covid-19 crisis.
Having come to terms with the heartbreaking news that they were unlikely to be able to have a baby together, the Southery couple were looking forward to getting married this year.
All was set for April 25 but then on February 28 Sarah-Jane discovered she was seven months’ pregnant.
Shocked but overjoyed, the couple decided not to change the wedding arrangements - even though her due date was just five days later.
“Mum was actually going to bring towels to the ceremony just in case!” said Sarah-Jane, who is mum to six-year-old Lilly-Skye from a previous relationship. “The baby was certainly a big shock to us. We’d accepted that we couldn’t have kids and come to the solution that we’d adopt because we wanted a sibling for Lilly.”
Then, just a couple of weeks after the pregnancy bombshell, the vicar got in touch to advise moving the wedding back due to the pandemic.
“I was really upset and emotional,” said Sarah-Jane, 33. “I’d spent all of 2019 planning and paying for everything bit by bit.
“I’d only just finished doing all the order of service booklets and had lots of personalised stuff such as glasses for the in-laws and gift bags.”
Sarah-Jane contacted the 80 guests and was delighted that all would be available again on September 28. So everything – including the ceremony at West Winch church and the reception at Stowbridge Village Hall – was rearranged for this month.
Baby Amelia then arrived early on April 19 and just as everything seemed fine, the couple were urged to change the wedding date again.
Sarah-Jane said: “I was suspecting it might be postponed again but I was devastated. I had a breakdown. I was in tears and just didn’t want to do anything.”
Next February was the third proposed date for the wedding but the bride-to-be had concerns.
“I thought it might still be too soon so we’ve gone for November 20,” said Sarah. “We didn’t want to get married if we could only have 30 people there so we’ve chosen a date when hopefully everybody we want there will be able to come.”
Fortunately, the only financial loss so far is a £50 deposit.
But van driver Robert, 39, and Sarah-Jane have had to make a significant sacrifice for next year. They have cut their plan to have five bridesmaids and three page boys to just four bridesmaids due to the cost of more new outfits.
The original ones bought for this year still hang in a wardrobe at the couple’s home, with Sarah-Jane feeling unable to deal with the ordeal of getting rid of them.
However, with the valuable support from her family and friends she says she is able to look forward to - fingers crossed - finally marrying Robert next year.